Yes, but no... Why?

One of the worst words in human aural language is the word 'Yes.' That word is the way we become committed, obligated, responsible, or required to do everything that we do. What about that other word, No? Who says that anymore? Those people that say the accursed 'n'-word must not be able to handle anything, or they must be some mean, old, or crusty person that wants nothing to do with society. Right? No? I mean yes? I mean...
There's nothing wrong with saying no, even though we all believe there is a lot of the time. If someone walks up akd asks you to do something, society backs the asker in expecting you to comply. Especially here in Happy Valley where virtues such as charity and kindness are instilled within us from when we were young. We learn to say yes, ok, sure, and other commitment-like words, and that it is unconditionally the right thing to do. (No objections yet? Ok, continue analysis.) What we aren't often taught are the times when it is ok to say no, if the idea is even addressed. Myself included, there are times we get 'sucked' into committments we don't have time to do, and yet we now have to make time.

Fact: Some things in life are always more important than others. Myth: Others are always more important. Giving service or time to others usually comes about because it is perceivably easier or more efficient for you to do the work than it is for them. Due to these conditions, there is at least some small obligation to help those who seek it. If it's easier for us, that means it will take less time, which means it will save time, which means we can easily fulfill the said task, regardless of everything else.

If our life is a frenzy, outsiders might ask, "how in the world do you have time for that?" Well, by 'not doing' or 'half-doing' some of the less important things, we have plenty of time to sneak this new committment in. Well, what happens when you aren't able to fullfil your accepted obligations? Society has been led to believe that saying yes is unconditional, but the fulfilling of the task is determined thereafter. It is quite common to see people accept assignments, duties, or responsibilities wholeheartedly, only to fall short later on, leaving the other person in a poor situation. Even worse, when we fall through, the blame is attributed to business or simply forgetting. One might rationalize that saying no will offend a person, or hurt their feelings. Rationally thinking, will the denied or the misled person deal with the situation better? Such a difficult answer to such a plain and simple concept: something I and many others struggle with all the time.